Our story
Built by a couple, for couples
Seven years in, we thought we had each other figured out. Then we stumbled on Arthur Aron's research and realized how many conversations we'd been skipping.
Most couple apps hand you a stack of questions and call it a day. No sense of order. No awareness of what landed. After a week it feels like homework. We wanted the opposite.
One question a day. An algorithm that learns your taste. Depth that builds the way real intimacy does: gradually, on your terms. A double-blind reveal so both answers stay honest.
Five minutes that add up over months. That's Aperi.
Aperi
Latin: open up
The word is the imperative form of the Latin verb aperīre — to open, to uncover, to reveal. It's both a command and an invitation. In classical Latin it was used for opening doors, unveiling truths, and beginning conversations.
We wanted a name that captured what the app actually asks you to do. Not just answer questions — but open up. To your partner, to yourself, to the kind of honesty that deepens a relationship over time.
What we believe
Six principles that shape every decision. Not aspirational wall art. Actual filters we run features through.
Relationships first
Every feature gets one test: does it bring people closer? If not, it gets cut.
Science-backed
Aron's "36 Questions" study. Gottman's relationship research. We borrowed from academia, not Pinterest.
Simple on top, smart underneath
Bayesian inference, Elo tracking, Thompson Sampling. You never see it. You just get a good question.
No guilt mechanics
Rest days built in. Streaks never reset to zero. Consistency is rewarded. Breaks are not punished.
Progressive depth
Questions start light and go deeper as your comfort grows. You set the pace, the algorithm follows.
Beyond couples
Friends, roommates, solo journaling. The algorithm adapts to whoever is using it.
Ready to have better conversations?
Join the beta and be among the first to experience questions that actually learn what matters to you.